Who knows how your life is going to be each day. It’s one of the things about life that makes our heart race just thinking about it because hopefully, something exciting is just waiting for us around the corner. Hence why when you do find someone you really like and are into, you tend to work hard to keep them with you. Long distance relationships, especially with someone who is from another country, have a unique flair to them.
They are about two people from different walks of life, culture, languages, food and outlook on the world who have met each other and want to be more than just friends. You may not know a lot about them and this is what is so fun and exciting because you are learning something new about them every day without them actually being by your side. But when should these kinds of relationships become ‘real’?
Beyond about you
In every relationship, the early stages are filled with ‘tell me about yourself’ questions. It’s only natural to want to know more about the person you’re investing time in. however, if you are emailing each other, talking in online chat room, in social media direct messages and more, about real-life situations, things could be getting serious. Talking about jobs, careers, financial concerns and where you would like to be in 5 to 10 years are things concerning the future. These aren’t normal lovey-dovey subjects, but serious topics about life and planning.
They value your independence
As you can imagine, long-distance relationships take an extraordinary amount of trust very early on. You may have only met each other a few times and have not even gone to bed together yet. Signs that your boyfriend or girlfriend value your own independence will show you they are mature and understand what it means to give trust. You may inform them you’re going out for the night with friends onto the club scene or perhaps on holiday. If they are possessive and asking you questions like ‘who’s with you?’ or ‘when will you be back?’, then, unfortunately, they are a little insecure and could be trying to control your life. However, if they’re not and want you to be happy, they are confident in themselves to let you be yourself.
You’re ready to move in
At some point when you have been talking for a long time online and on the phone, you will wonder when this will get ‘real’? Moving in together is going to be the best financial option as finding a place on your own just to be with someone is a big step. Consider the legal options for Joining a partner in the UK as certain immigration laws allow spouses and couples to be together. Solicitors will be needed to talk about your intention of staying, possible job prospects and how long you may stay in the country for.
If you are in a long distance relationship, trust is required on both sides to be faithful and to not encroach on one’s independence. When you are both centred enough to be this way, you can talk about serious life plans and possible, move in with each other.