None of us likes to think of our partners cheating. The idea is enough to make us sick. This is the person you’ve given your heart to. Your relationship is intimate and personal. To think that they could invite a third party in without you knowing is devastating. But, many of us fear the worst when our men change their behaviour. If they start taking private phone calls or go out a lot without explanation; it’s natural to assume the worst. These are, after all, the actions of a cheat.
But, they’re also the actions of someone battling with health issues. And, losing your trust is the last thing your partner needs if that’s the case. Most of us like to think our partners would tell us about these things straight away, but that isn’t always the case. As such, you’re left to put two and two together and get fifty. But, instead of jumping to conclusions, consider whether these issues are behind your partner’s actions.
If your partner has become uncommunicative and despondent, it’s possible they’re suffering from depression. Though things are changing, the silence surrounding male depression is a real issue. It’s thought that up to half of British men will experience this at some stage, but many of them struggle in silence. Your man may find it especially difficult to talk about this with you. But, if you get the wrong end of the stick, you stand to make things harder. Instead of pulling away and being suspicious, you need to help your man feel more confident, and let him know about the help out there. Approach this issue carefully, and see if you can encourage him to open up.
Addiction can both physically and mentally ruin a person. If your man has been displaying secretive behaviours, this may be his problem. Drug addiction and alcohol abuse often cause users to lie and deceive those they love most. If your man has fallen foul, the best bet would be to encourage him into an alcohol treatment programme, or a drug rehabilitation centre. Bear in mind, though, that this is something he needs to come to terms with. Help for addiction is useless until the addict admits there’s a problem. As such, the best you can do is show your ongoing support and love.
It’s also possible a health scare is behind his behaviour. Finding something, be it a lump or a new freckle, can be a real cause for concern. And, that could lead to your partner withdrawing and becoming increasingly irritable. If they do seek help, there could also be a degree of secrecy here. Sadly, there’s nothing you can do. Until your man is ready to open up, you’ll be in the dark about this issue. But, at least try to make their home life as stress-free as possible if you think this may be the problem.